That was wrong. That was my failure.
I don’t expect your forgiveness. I know I don’t deserve it. I only want you to know that none of this was about wanting another life or another person. It was about being afraid to let you see this part of my life, this weakness, this vulnerability.
You did nothing wrong. You made your decision to leave based on the truth you had at the time, the evidence I gave you. I hope one day that knowledge brings you some peace.
I loved you the best way I knew how, even when that wasn’t good enough.
— Troy
I didn’t cry right away.
I just sat there in that chair, the letter trembling in my hands, and let his words slowly settle into my understanding, rearranging everything I’d believed about the end of our marriage.
He had lied to me. That part hadn’t changed, would never change. But now I finally understood the shape of those lies, the reason behind them, the fear that had motivated his silence.
If only he’d let me in instead of shutting me out. If only he’d trusted me enough to be vulnerable. How completely different our lives might have been.
I folded the letter carefully and placed it back in the envelope, running my fingers over his handwriting one last time.
Then I sat there for a very long time in the growing darkness, thinking about the man I’d known and loved for my entire life—the boy next door who became my husband—and realizing I’d lost him twice: once to his secrets, and once to death.
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